Have you heard the phrase, “Patience is a virtue?” Maybe you’ve even said it a few times.
Transitions will test your patience.
What if you chose to relax into a new rhythm of pacing?
If you find yourself frustrated, anxious, close to calling it quits and reverting back to where you’ve come from, stop.
Take a few deep breaths, go for a walk, have a conversation with a trusted friend & or professional. Give yourself permission for a self-imposed, “Time-Out”.
When your patience feels tested, explore the concept of pacing. Pacing opens up a spacious consideration around the timing of things. When feeling your patience is running thin, this is a constricted view (and sensation in your body-mind). Creating space helps us to be more self-compassionate and choose to engage in acts of self-kindness.
Our minds, if left unchecked race off in a multitude of directions when we’re experiencing a transition.
It’s very common for the what if’s to quickly shift from possibility to catastrophe.
Fear based thinking will intelligently show up. This quality of thinking naturally seeks to restore safety through predictability and most often the familiar. This is a natural and predictable response if we’re caught in the river of transition, unaware that we’re there. In the grips of fear based thinking, it’s hard to imagine in this vast river, that we have floatation devices available to us.
Breath is a quick, easily accessible and free floatation device.
The next time you find yourself “losing your patience” consider pacing.
Experiment with these three breaths
Consider how you might pace your expectations; choose to think in kinder ways & invite your body-mind to soften. Slow down and check in with yourself.
Reflect on this poem
Walk Slowly by Donna Faulds
It only takes a reminder to breathe,
a moment to be still, and just like that,
something in me settles, softens, makes
space for imperfection.
The harsh voice of judgment drops to a whisper
and I remember again that life isn’t a relay
race; that we will all cross the finish
line; that waking up to life is what we
were born for.
As many times as I forget, catch myself
charging forward without even knowing
where I’m going, it is also, that many times
I can make the choice to stop, to breathe,
and be, and walk slowly into the mystery.
As you choose to empower your new beginning, remember, you do not need to travel alone!